Empowerment

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Let’s talk about this word. EMPOWERMENT. People use it loosely and not enough. I believe it is a force of a word that fuels you to create your world. It is to create your own strength in life, work, love, spirit and everything that makes up oneself.

Too many people walk around doubting themselves and I believe this is a travesty. (one of my favorite words, btw.)

I have had my fair share of low life moments and feeling as though you are nothing and useless, but along the way of becoming who I really am and not wanting to change that for anything, I have learned a few things.

One of the biggest things I have learned is that people are never thinking what you think they are. No one invests so much thought into the minor details that you can see in yourself. So move on. Do not dwell in your thoughts an do not allow another person’s glare or movement, because half the time, people are in their own head thinking about their own problems.

Once you can get over this, you have so much time to be happy. SO MUCH TIME. You can spend the entire day working on positivity and selflessness. Being good to yourself mentally and physically in the best way is empowerment. You don’t realize how little bad things affect you until you give the good things a true and honest try.

Eating healthy and working out is one of the first steps to empowerment. Now everyone can bitch and yell that they want to eat bad and they don’t care if they are fat and unmotivated… you aren’t being the very best you can be. The human body was not made to eat synthetic and processed things. The body was not made to sit and compound fat. It was made to work, improve the world, see the beauty of life and to have the capability to travel across the world, dance, make love and to provide your mind with a vessel to accomplish greatness.

Going full force one hundred percent at your work and school, whatever it is you do will also allow you to be the happiest you. Go above and beyond. Prove that you are better then the others and that you stand out. Not to be better, but for yourself. Think of ideas and innovations that will be recognized and never be scared to be assertive and dominant.

{To the ladies: I have been called a very intense and controlling person many a times. It is true that men can get away with it more so than women, but never allow that to stop you. Be as strong and confident as a that ‘man’. Shying away will only deter people from listening to you.}

Nothing in this world should ever allow you to feel inferior nor should you allow it. Make a Power Playlist for when you are down. Listen and take breaths and remember that the key to happiness is embettering yourself. Stay present in the moment, and give the people that deserve your time the time, and never ever think you cannot do anything. Because that’s just a bullshit excuse.

There are NO excuses while building your empire.

I will leave you with this quote by my favorite author. And to you all as usual… Cheers, Bitches!

“You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.”

Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

 

Work or Twerk?

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The way you dress yourself, is the way you want people to see you. It is the first impression that you make. You dress for the position in life that you want.

DONTS

There are too many people running around in attire that will NEVER be appropriate. I have seen some of the most horrific work outfits by men and women at my job and I work for a professional Pharmaceutical company.

For Women:

1. NEVER EVER EVER, no matter how old or thin you are, wear a skirt or dress that is shorter than lower to mid thigh. You are at work. No one wants to see your ass.

2. Foam Flip Flops. Just stop. They are an abhorrence to the human race and should ONLY be worn to the pool.

3. Polyester should NOT be in any woman’s vocabulary.

For Men:

1. Mandles, Flips flops and Sandles are unacceptable. Put on a leather shoe. TRUST me, it’s much nicer.

2. Belt and Shoes, Socks and Pants. A key rule to matching in men’s fashion.

3. Your clothes might have a lot of minor patterns, but all three or four, and you might look like a 1920’s hobo trying to get an interview with the Circus.

For Both:

1. RIPPED JEANS, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! ‘NOUGH SAID

2. Stop dressing like you buy your clothes out of the kids section. It is so inappropriate and distracting. You will not get your point across, because if you can’t dress yourself appropriately, how can you make your voice heard appropriately.

3. Keep your colors and patterns to a non distracting level. As crazy as this sounds, some outfits you see from day to day are extremely distracting when a rainbow of colors just can’t seem to stop running by your cubicle. 😉

DOS!!!

1. CLEAN LINES

2. Blazers and collared shirts are a must. MUST. They sculpt your body in the most serious of ways.

3. Everything should fit. Not too big or too small.

4. Appropriate touches of color and pattern can be very sophisticated and help spice up your outfit.

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This light pink and black color blocked blazer, white collared chiffon shirt, black pencil skirt and black pumps are my go to outfit for interviews. Specifically for interviews, light jewelry and subtle colors really help to give off that clean and polished look, while really emphasizing that you are there for your skills and mind.

Good Morning!

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Monday. It’s always the worst coming out of a weekend and realizing that you cannot sleep in, you cannot smoke another bowl in the morning, you cannot have the breakfast cocktail you so desire. I allow myself to have Sunday Fatday for my cravings and fixes so I usual wake up to a still full tummy which is never a good feeling. It is also a good reminder of how you feel when you eat slightly unhealthily and how the rest of the week you should stick to your strict food and exercise schedules.

Monday is also the day I regain my strength. Get back into the mindset I need to be in to complete the week, get a step closer to my ultimate goals. My Monday morning kick-starters are usually a Cosmic Cranberry Kombucha and definitely lots of coffee with some sort of flavoring. Remember, you can only be powerful if you keep up your level of success and intensity that is being powerful. I just love the word…. POWERFUL.

Kombucha is one of my most essential healthy items. It has so many benefits for you, and really helps your digestion. There are many types of Kombucha but GTs is most definitely my recommended product. SO GOOD.

http://www.synergydrinks.com

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This week is EXTREMELY exciting to me because I get to go up to NY and move into my new apartment!It’s always to fun to have a new place. Especially when you live with your best friends!

So as this is a short week for me, this is a good week because I can live a little extravagant and careless for a few days which is definitely something that I need. A TRUE VACATION is what I need to take, but that never just seems to be on my table of decision making. For all of you with the Monday blues, remember, put on some extra lipstick and put your powerful face on and prove to yourself all the things you can do. Remember to love yourself and to never be ORDINARY.

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EXPRESS Addiction

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My favorite store is Express, it’s been my addiction since forever. My favorite things that are staples and around all seasons are the chiffon collared shirts and the best A-line and body tight dresses. They have the best lace and leather, and I cannot get enough. My recent purchases were pretty cheap and on sale and I even had a money off coupon that did very nicely, money off e-mails on your phone is one of the key things to use. Forget about most and delete them, but never your essential stores. It is such a money saver and half the time you can pay half the price if you shop properly. I think clothing is one of the most powerful ways you can express who you are and what you where shows what goals you have in life. Ultimately what you want and think you want to strive for. Clothing makes me powerful. It makes me feel like I am exactly who I say I am.

My Recent Purchases: They are more for me, dates and going out and less for work, the long dress I might wear on a Friday with a long black cardigan and sandals. Black was definitely my key color in this purchase, even though I love color.

1. Black Jumpsuit, Black Lace Back and Trim

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2. Black Lace Dress, Open Back 

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3. Black Snakeskin Chiffon Dress

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I give full credit off these photos to Express Design Studios. You can find the link and these items below! Ironically, Express was a former employer of mine. Three months. It wasn’t as fun as I thought to have a second job just for fun but I did enjoy the clothes.

http://www.express.com

Boston

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This weekend I am going to Boston to visit my extremely intelligent, funny and handsome best friend. He is the brother I have never had. I’m extremely excited because its been some time since we could see each other being in two different cities. He’s always been my rock. Extremely rational and tell it like it is. It will be very good for me to get out of my town because working for a Pharmaceutical Company has really proven to be STRESSFUL. I’m working 70 hour weeks because my boss loves me and my work ethic. He loves that I am a crazy nerd, but lets be real…. I am still a baby, and Project Managing two projects is extremely difficult especially when people don’t want to take me seriously. You may be older and been in the industry for years, but there is a reason I am in charge, because I’m really smart and can bring a lot to the table. I have already far exceeded all expectations so I am not asking for a lot; trust my skills.

AMTRAK is awful. Business class is the way to go. Do you seriously want to sit next to someone or hours in pain over smell or sickness or let’s face it… That baby crying near you will drive you insane. Yes you’re paying more money but if you are like me, travel needs to be stress free not stressful. It is a vacation not a hate-my-life-cation. Anyway this is my bored on the train with no internet post. Check back for details of my weekend.

PS: THE THEME OF THE WEEKEND IS GIN. As always. UHDUH!!